The issue with Ms Izzie

A not very nice thing happened to me this weekend.

I went to dinner with all my some old friends. I took our digital camera, partly to take a pic of us all and partly to show off my beautiful children.

I showed Audrey on my right and she oo'd and aahd and said how cute Izzie was with her big smile. Then I showed Mrs W on my left (we'd just been at her son VF's 1st birthday the weekend before) and the first thing she said was, "Do you think Izzie's so fat because you feed her on formula?" Around the table my other girlfriends said things like "she's lovely and cuddly" and "better too round than too skinny" and I left it.

Inside I was fuming, she was accusing me of making my child a fattie by not breast feeding her for long enough. A little while later, partly because I couldn't really belive what I'd heard, I said quietly to her, "Do you really think she's fat?" and she said "Yes, I do actually." I left it there , I was quite upset but I left it and got over it until later.

Then I started thinking, three things, one is that Mrs W is a larger woman who has lost a lot of weight but has always been big. I wonder if she is very conscious of little girls being set up as fatties from an early age and she is sort of on a personal crusade to save potential 'big girls' .

My other thought is how sad, to only see the chubbiness and not the smile or the big blue eyes or the beautiful hair, sad for Mrs W who is missing the rest of people because she sees their size first, and sad for Izzie to be marked as a fat person even at 9 months.

My last thought was that perhaps other people are looking at Izzie and feeling sorry for her because she's chubby. I can't see her as a fattie because I never see any other babies her age.

She is very cuddly but aren't babies sposed to be cuddly, she is only just crawling so she's not getting excersize yet, she eats everything put in front of her which is amazing after Bax (although he has eaten broccoli, peas, beans and courgette this weekend), she has an amazingly healthy diet because except for a can of fruit in the morning we make all her food ourselves.
I feel a bit sad about it. I know Mrs W is very opinionated but now I don't feel I can take Izzie anywhere near her because she'll be judged or felt sorry for.

Boo hoo.